I admire anyone who tries to navigate all of that with integrity and with boundaries. I’m way too sensitive to put myself out there like that and that’s one of the many reasons I am not a writer that shares my stuff with the world.
I’ve noticed all of these types. Thank you for talking about it! We can sense when someone is an empty salesperson vs someone genuinely interested in engaging.
Ugh yeah, me. I'm the recovering people pleaser and kind of a "Mindy" of the Writing Community. Giving too much with little reciprocation is just as toxic as being a Joe or a Kyle. I've found that the best thing to do is just observe who's really there for me and focus on finding my audience. "No one owes you anything" goes both ways, so a Mindy should be free to decide that their boundaries are to step back from supporting others because it's getting too draining..
Excellent post. I'm not sure where I fall in the Writing Community. I am a peopled pleaser and have tried to sit on the periphery and watch the game. Its complexities boggle my mind so I support those I can and I am appreciative of any who support me. But it is exhausting.
The one that gets me is Sneaky author. They follow you, you follow back, then they unfollow you. You become one more stick in their pile.
I admire anyone who tries to navigate all of that with integrity and with boundaries. I’m way too sensitive to put myself out there like that and that’s one of the many reasons I am not a writer that shares my stuff with the world.
I’ve noticed all of these types. Thank you for talking about it! We can sense when someone is an empty salesperson vs someone genuinely interested in engaging.
I do love this. It can apply also to platforms like Medium.
Ugh yeah, me. I'm the recovering people pleaser and kind of a "Mindy" of the Writing Community. Giving too much with little reciprocation is just as toxic as being a Joe or a Kyle. I've found that the best thing to do is just observe who's really there for me and focus on finding my audience. "No one owes you anything" goes both ways, so a Mindy should be free to decide that their boundaries are to step back from supporting others because it's getting too draining..
Yup, I couldn’t agree more 🖤
Excellent post. I'm not sure where I fall in the Writing Community. I am a peopled pleaser and have tried to sit on the periphery and watch the game. Its complexities boggle my mind so I support those I can and I am appreciative of any who support me. But it is exhausting.
It really is!
A fascinating subject and one I've been thinking quite a lot about lately, Cass. I could name an awful lot of Kyles!